Ask Dr. Betters
My baby died 3 weeks after giving birth. How do I let go of the "what if"?
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Recently I went into labor and had my baby at 33 weeks. He had to be flown to a larger hospital with a NICU and we stayed there for 3 weeks. I can't stop thinking about things I should have done so that I could have kept him in a little longer like I shouldβ¦
Does God take away life because of our sins and mistakes?
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I lost my mom, my dad, and my sister within three years. Each of them died naturally. I was wondering does God take away life because of our sins and mistakes? My family served God and I am continuing to serve God. I am burdened by he pain of the loss of my family and I am trying to understand why they died..."
How can I trust God when I'm faithful in prayer, but it seems that everything is being taken from me?
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I recently lost my job - I was very successful, seemed to be on top of my game and now I am in financial ruin - Iβve lost everything, my job, my house and now my wife is leaving me too - how can I trust God when everything is being taken away no matter how much I pray?"
I am a double amputee who's lonely and whose heart is hurting.
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Iβm a 45-year-old double amputee. I lost both my legs as a baby. I cry myself to sleep at night. Iβm so lonely. It seems like the world has taught ladies to want aβ¦
How is it possible to prepare for my child's death?
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Our son was born with a serious birth defect. The doctors have told us that his time with us will be short and that we need to prepare for his death sometime over the next 6-12 months. How can we wake up everyday and find any joy when we know it might be his last?β¦β
Do we pay for our sins here on earth?
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I disagree with what you have to say about heaven in your previous episodes. I think everyone is going to heaven because we all pay for our βsinsβ right here on earth. There are consequences for every action good and bad."
What does the Bible say about single women in ministry?
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the following question from Rhonda: "I have heard many people espouse Paulβs teachings about singleness and marriage. I am a single woman who has never married. I am not single by my own choice, but I do have a desire to be married. In serving in ministry, I have found thatβ¦
How is the suffering we bring upon ourselves different from the suffering God gives us to mature?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "How is the suffering we bring upon ourselves by our choices different or the same as the suffering God gives us to mature? My sister-in-law is struggling with drug addiction. My brother wants to take comfort in the fact that God appointed her suffering, but to me this suffering seems self-imposed. Isn't my sister-in-law suffering as a result of her choices?"
I am afraid to pray for patience. What should I do?
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I have three sons, two have have special needs. I am overwhelmed by how hard it is to care for my boys. I want to pray for patience, but I am afraid that if I pray for patience God will make my life unbearably hard in order to teach me patience. I cannot handle things being any worse than they are now so I don't pray to God and ask for patience...What should I do?"
Can we draw a comparison between how God lost His son to how we lose our children?
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Can we draw a comparison between how God lost His son, Jesus, to how we lose our sons or our daughters as humans?"
Is it fair for me to talk about the problems in my marriage with others?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "My marriage is the source of a lot of suffering in my life. Is it fair for me to share that suffering with another person or persons? Or should that suffering be kept between me and my husband?"
Is it okay to pray for the suffering of our enemies? David does!
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Is it okay to pray for the suffering of our enemies? David does! But, Jesus says to pray for our enemies and those who persecute us? Why is the Bible not consistent here?"
Is venting allowed, or is it the same as gossip?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "What do you think of "venting"? Is venting allowed or is it the same as gossip?"
It looks like people are saved and then become unsaved. How do you reconcile that with eternal security?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "The Devil was once a saved angel who was unsaved and so was king Saul--how do you reconcile that information with Hebrews 6?
Can one be saved and then choose to turn away from God?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Is it "once saved always saved"? Or can one be saved and chose to turn away from God? Hebrews 6:4-6 says βIt is impossible for those who have once been enlightened, who have tasted the heavenly gift, who have shared in the Holy Spirit, who have tasted the goodness of the word of God and the powers of the coming age and who have fallen away, to be brought back to repentance. To their loss they are crucifying the Son of God all over again and subjecting him to public disgrace. Land that drinks in the rain often falling on it and that produces a crop useful to those for whom it is farmed receives the blessing of God. But land that produces thorns and thistles is worthless and is in danger of being cursed. In the end it will be burned.β
How are we supposed to deal with invisible evil?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "How are people supposed to deal with this invisible evil that shows itself at times other than just live with it and know it exists?"
How can I tell if my wife is telling the truth or lying?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "My wife is depressed, she blames me for her depression. She also has cheated on me and is currently doing so via text message. We are separated, but we live in the same house. She doesn't know if she wants to work on our marriage. She says she has demons in her head that she needs to work out before she can love herself or me. Is she telling me the truth or lying to me?"
Our child has married an atheist. What can we do?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Raised in a caring Christian home with one serious issue after another in the church, our grown child has married an atheist. Our hearts are broken, and...
How can we learn to trust the Church again?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Church gossip has nearly destroyed our family. The timing of invented-stories and stretched-offenses has only intensified our losses, as we were deeply grieving the deaths of nearly a dozen precious people in our lives...