Posts in Parenting
"Drawing The Line In My Marriage"
"Drawing The Line In My Marriage"

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I'm standing here in my kitchen, listening to Dr. Betters, baking my son's 17th birthday cake. I'm reaching out in desperation, as the woman reaches for Jesus' hem. We've been to 11 counselors, pastoral and professional over the last 14 years. I know I am a sinner at heart, but I am seeking healing for my marriage, still. I've lived under emotional/verbal abuse for 26 years. I've tried to separate 3 times. My husband is a professing believer and, since middle school, has opened the door of technology and apps to our son (34 hours on Tik Tok over the last 10 days recently on just 1 app). What is a Christian wife to do when my husband devalues, minimizes, and outright blocks my attempts and wishes with boundaries when it comes to social media, music, and video games? I know the arm of the Lord is not short and is mighty in battle, but where is my line of obedience to God over man? How do I protect my son in this last year? Thank you for your time."

Read More
Parenting, RelationshipsMARKINC Ministries2022Comment
“My Son Wants My Inheritance”
“My Son Wants My Inheritance”

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, Sandy asks "I am a widow of 9 years my son has never helped me in any way shape or form but yet he wants everything when I pass away he is upset with me because I'm not left him nothing I cannot depend on him I left it to my granddaughters is that wrong? He will find anything he can to throw up in my face. My associate pastor from a long time Church has helped me every month since my husband has died sometimes he doesn't have it sometimes I just barely get by most of the time I'm a $100 short every month of paying my bills but my son will not help in any way.. am I so wrong for feeling the way I do I should help the gentleman or associate pastor in any way I can is how I feel but I don't really care whether I help my son he's he's not there and I can't depend on him."

Read More
Finances, ParentingChuck F. Betters2021Comment
How Do I Respond to a “Coming Out”?
How Do I Respond to a “Coming Out”?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, Donata asks "My granddaughter (age 13) believes she is gay and dresses that way. Her parents have condoned this. Her father, my son, was raised in a Christian home, and knows better, but allows this. There are other things going on in this family that is tearing my heart out with a heaviness for my granddaughter to not be left behind. Please help me in the way to approach her, that she is not left behind that Satan doesn't use it to pull her further away, but the Lord uses it to pull her closer to him, that she may become a witness for others in Jesus name."

Read More
Parenting, Suffering, SinChuck F. Betters2021Comment
“Our Adult Child Is Breaking Our Hearts”
“Our Adult Child Is Breaking Our Hearts”

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, “We ask daily, How long O' Lord will our grown married adult child continue to break our hearts with hate and anger, abandoning us at critical times, refuse us our first glances or permit any access to our precious new grandchildren, and blame/berate us for the deep heartache they have suffered at the hands of their beloved church long ago? What does the heartbreaking process of letting go consist of, please, and where do we begin? We are losing Hope of any reconciliation. Thanks for the scriptures."

Read More
ParentingChuck F. Betters2021Comment
Our Adult Child Hates Us, Help!
Our Adult Child Hates Us, Help!

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "We ask daily, "How long O' Lord" will our grown married adult child continue to break our hearts with hate and anger, abandoning us at critical times, refuse us our first glances or permit any access to our precious new grandchildren, and blame/berate us for the deep heartache they have suffered at the hands of their beloved church long ago? What does the heartbreaking process of letting go consist of, please, and where do we begin? We are losing Hope of any reconciliation. Thanks for the scripture."

Read More
Parenting, SufferingChuck F. Betters2020Comment
Can I View God As A Motherly Figure?
Can I View God As A Motherly Figure?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I grew up in a very abusive home. My father was a terrible man and has caused me great pain and suffering. My mother finally got the courage to leave him but the damage was already done. I am now in my 30’s and have recently begun attending church. I just heard a sermon that was all about viewing God as our father and it caused me to want to vomit because it made me think about all the horrible things my father did to me. I just can’t go there, I can’t use that image. Is it wrong to view God as a “motherly” figure? (refer to Isaiah 66:13, 49:15)"

Read More
Parenting, SinMARKINC Ministries2019Comment
Should I seek out my Birth Father?
Should I seek out my Birth Father?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I grew up in a really rough neighborhood, I mean, really rough. Drugs and prostitution were all around me as a boy. I always thought my dad dies when I was a toddler...at least that is what my mother always told me. Now I am in the 20’s and recently found out that she has been lying to me all these years. The truth is, she has no idea who my dad is as she was selling herself in order to pay the bills which is painful to even think about. Part of me wants to find him and know who my dad is but the other part of me struggles with the fact that he was someone willing to pay and essentially abuse a women just for sex. Is it wrong not to look for him now that I know he might still be alive?"

Read More
Parenting, SinMARKINC Ministries2019Comment