Is My Son Truly Saved? Looking Into the Soul | Ask Dr. Betters
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "…At 42, my son has embraced science, UFO, and other such worldly answers while searching for something to believe in. He vacillates between the two. After listening to him and showing him the fallacy of his judgment, I asked him clearly, "Whom do you choose?" After evading and modifying the question, I return to the question, "Whom do you choose this day?" I asked my pastor (when my son was in his teens), "As much as anyone can look into the soul of another, do you believe my son is saved?" His answer was "yes." Help me settle my heart for my son."
"Drawing The Line In My Marriage"
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I'm standing here in my kitchen, listening to Dr. Betters, baking my son's 17th birthday cake. I'm reaching out in desperation, as the woman reaches for Jesus' hem. We've been to 11 counselors, pastoral and professional over the last 14 years. I know I am a sinner at heart, but I am seeking healing for my marriage, still. I've lived under emotional/verbal abuse for 26 years. I've tried to separate 3 times. My husband is a professing believer and, since middle school, has opened the door of technology and apps to our son (34 hours on Tik Tok over the last 10 days recently on just 1 app). What is a Christian wife to do when my husband devalues, minimizes, and outright blocks my attempts and wishes with boundaries when it comes to social media, music, and video games? I know the arm of the Lord is not short and is mighty in battle, but where is my line of obedience to God over man? How do I protect my son in this last year? Thank you for your time."
God's Will For Babies Born Of Rape?
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, Angela asks "Dr. Betters, can you please explain God's will for children born from rape?"
“My Son Wants My Inheritance”
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, Sandy asks "I am a widow of 9 years my son has never helped me in any way shape or form but yet he wants everything when I pass away he is upset with me because I'm not left him nothing I cannot depend on him I left it to my granddaughters is that wrong? He will find anything he can to throw up in my face. My associate pastor from a long time Church has helped me every month since my husband has died sometimes he doesn't have it sometimes I just barely get by most of the time I'm a $100 short every month of paying my bills but my son will not help in any way.. am I so wrong for feeling the way I do I should help the gentleman or associate pastor in any way I can is how I feel but I don't really care whether I help my son he's he's not there and I can't depend on him."
How Do I Respond to a “Coming Out”?
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, Donata asks "My granddaughter (age 13) believes she is gay and dresses that way. Her parents have condoned this. Her father, my son, was raised in a Christian home, and knows better, but allows this. There are other things going on in this family that is tearing my heart out with a heaviness for my granddaughter to not be left behind. Please help me in the way to approach her, that she is not left behind that Satan doesn't use it to pull her further away, but the Lord uses it to pull her closer to him, that she may become a witness for others in Jesus name."
“Our Adult Child Is Breaking Our Hearts”
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, “We ask daily, How long O' Lord will our grown married adult child continue to break our hearts with hate and anger, abandoning us at critical times, refuse us our first glances or permit any access to our precious new grandchildren, and blame/berate us for the deep heartache they have suffered at the hands of their beloved church long ago? What does the heartbreaking process of letting go consist of, please, and where do we begin? We are losing Hope of any reconciliation. Thanks for the scriptures."
How Does A Man Lead His Family Spiritually?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "How Does A Man Lead His Family Spiritually?"
Our Adult Child Hates Us, Help!
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "We ask daily, "How long O' Lord" will our grown married adult child continue to break our hearts with hate and anger, abandoning us at critical times, refuse us our first glances or permit any access to our precious new grandchildren, and blame/berate us for the deep heartache they have suffered at the hands of their beloved church long ago? What does the heartbreaking process of letting go consist of, please, and where do we begin? We are losing Hope of any reconciliation. Thanks for the scripture."
I Raised My Child To Love Christ, Why Is He Leaving The Faith?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, “Can you explain Proverbs 22:6 in context for me? I parented with this verse encouraging me to train our kids in the way they should go, believing that they would all indeed follow Christ. At the very least…when they are old. I was, and am, extremely heart broken…
Does God View Adopted Children The Same As Biological Child?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, “Is adopting a kid the same as bearing a child? I ask this question from both a man’s and woman’s perspective. I have longed to adopt a child/children for so long. I always thought it is better to give a better life to the kids that are already in this world…
Can Jesus Save My Relationship?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I cry, pray to Jesus but every day is the same. I will not force her, I will respect her decision. I will not manipulate Jesus. But at the same time, I want someday that Jesus may change her mind, …
Can I View God As A Motherly Figure?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I grew up in a very abusive home. My father was a terrible man and has caused me great pain and suffering. My mother finally got the courage to leave him but the damage was already done. I am now in my 30’s and have recently begun attending church. I just heard a sermon that was all about viewing God as our father and it caused me to want to vomit because it made me think about all the horrible things my father did to me. I just can’t go there, I can’t use that image. Is it wrong to view God as a “motherly” figure? (refer to Isaiah 66:13, 49:15)"
I'm Battling A Challenging Teenager, Help!
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am battling a challenging teenager in my home. How does a parent respond to teenage questions that seem to push the envelope…
My Girlfriend Is Pregnant, What Do We Do?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I just found out that my girlfriend is pregnant. We only met a few months ago. We both attend the same church and although we know what we did is wrong...I feel horrible and afraid, now what do we do?"
Should I seek out my Birth Father?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I grew up in a really rough neighborhood, I mean, really rough. Drugs and prostitution were all around me as a boy. I always thought my dad dies when I was a toddler...at least that is what my mother always told me. Now I am in the 20’s and recently found out that she has been lying to me all these years. The truth is, she has no idea who my dad is as she was selling herself in order to pay the bills which is painful to even think about. Part of me wants to find him and know who my dad is but the other part of me struggles with the fact that he was someone willing to pay and essentially abuse a women just for sex. Is it wrong not to look for him now that I know he might still be alive?"
Is Supporting My Transgender Child Loving Or Condoning Their Behavior?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "My niece recently came out and told the family that she is transgender. I’m not even sure I fully understand what that means…
How Do I Teach My Children Abstinence?
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am parent of 3 children and my first one just started high school. I think back to my high school days and the bad decisions I made and I worry about my kids making the…
How Do I Find Comfort, When I Feel So Guilty?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "My child was recently diagnosed with an autoimmune disease at the age of 5 years old that she will struggle with for the rest of her life. I’m afraid it…”
How Do I Reconcile The Wrongs I've Committed Against My Children?
In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I have been a horrible person the majority of my life. I am now in my 60’s and am struggling with the mountain of quilt I am carrying. No one ever told me or taught me about Jesus, that is until 2 years ago…
Is Abortion Ever Okay?
In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My husband and I are trying to get pregnant and have been reading a lot of information about all these gene testing options available to us in preparation. We have been believers our whole lives and we do not believe in abortion BUT…