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Suffering, Grief MARKINC Ministries Suffering, Grief MARKINC Ministries

How is it possible to prepare for my child's death?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Our son was born with a serious birth defect. The doctors have told us that his time with us will be short and that we need to prepare for his death sometime over the next 6-12 months. How can we wake up everyday and find any joy when we know it might be his last?…”

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Parenting, Suffering, Grief, Redemption MARKINC Ministries Parenting, Suffering, Grief, Redemption MARKINC Ministries

I am afraid to pray for patience. What should I do?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I have three sons, two have have special needs. I am overwhelmed by how hard it is to care for my boys. I want to pray for patience, but I am afraid that if I pray for patience God will make my life unbearably hard in order to teach me patience. I cannot handle things being any worse than they are now so I don't pray to God and ask for patience...What should I do?"

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Church, Grief MARKINC Ministries Church, Grief MARKINC Ministries

How can we learn to trust the Church again?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Church gossip has nearly destroyed our family. The timing of invented-stories and stretched-offenses has only intensified our losses, as we were deeply grieving the deaths of nearly a dozen precious people in our lives...

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Emotions, Suffering, Grief MARKINC Ministries Emotions, Suffering, Grief MARKINC Ministries

Help! Our only child was murdered...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Our only child, our 18 year old son, was murdered last year. We're supposed to be Christians. My husband is even a pastor. But I have lost my faith in the goodness of God. I am in such complete and total despair. I've struggled with doubts (probably due to my OCD and scrupulosity)...

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Suffering, Relationships, Grief MARKINC Ministries Suffering, Relationships, Grief MARKINC Ministries

My wife keeps leaving me and coming back. Can I divorce her the next time she leaves?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My wife was diagnosed with bipolar and she refuses to admit it, therefore she is not medicated. Over the last 4 years she has left me (and our daughter) several times. Each time she tells me she wants a divorce and I tell her I don’t want a divorce so she leaves. Then, a few months later she apologizes and wants to come back home. Every time I take her back because isn’t that what Christ does for us? My question is, would it ever be okay for me to say, “enough!” Can I ever go through with a divorce?"

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How do I deal with the death of my son?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I'm working through Bible Study your wife wrote, Treasures to Encouragement. It is helping me with the lose of our 22 year old son Cameron who was hit head on and killed by a heavily drunk and drugged driver who was 11 months to day older than our Cameron. My husband and I have been married 24 years and have 3 children...We are all struggling...Any words of wisdom? How do we show appreciation to God for giving us the honor to raise such a great son? The pain of not having Cameron"s presence here is unbearable. It is difficult to function or feel that's ok to ever be happy again. How does our family figure out what to do? We have always been extremely close family. How do we help all the others that are struggling with the lose of Cameron too?"

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It is ever okay to give-up on living and go home to Heaven?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am 75 years old and my health has slowly been deteriorating over the past 5 years. Recently, my health has gotten much worse and it is unlikely I will ever have a decent quality of life again. I am in constant pain and I need assistance to do even the simplest things. When is it okay to “give up” and go home? I know suicide is wrong, but is it wrong to just stop fighting to live when you’ve lived a full life."

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Suffering, Relationships, Grief, Redemption MARKINC Ministries Suffering, Relationships, Grief, Redemption MARKINC Ministries

"My wife of 41 years died...Is it wrong for me to pray to die too?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I lost my wife of 41 years this year on February 19th. My life is so empty I love God even though I don't understand why she had to die from stage 4 colon cancer. I was mad at God for taking her I have asked him for forgiveness and thanked him for giving us 41 years of a perfect marriage. My question is: Is it wrong for me to ask him to bring me home now also?"

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Sin, Emotions, Grief MARKINC Ministries Sin, Emotions, Grief MARKINC Ministries

How can I give up my anxiety and fears to God?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I suffer tremendously from anxiety and fear of my children dying. I pray about it constantly, but still I fear that God will take them anyway. It is a constant torment that is crippling my life. How can I give up my anxiety to God and trust him with my darkest fears?"

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