Posts in Suffering
I Need My Husband Back
I Need My Husband Back

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, DayDay asks "I am 32 years old. I’ve been with my husband for 15 years. This year 2021 my husband unexpectedly passed away, on Valentine’s Day of all days, at 49 years old. We have three children ages 3,4 and 11. We have already been through so much in our lifetime (financially mentally and emotionally) and God took my husband from us, for what? What kind of God would want to see me and my children suffer? I don’t understand it, and I need answers. It’s not OK for God to leave me in this lifetime without answers and just think I’m supposed to forget about it when I die. Like I’m supposed to forget about it and my brain is supposed to be wiped clear and not have any questions. No it does not help me that people tell me that the heavens need him more because that’s not the case. We have a family together and I need him more. God has my husband for eternity. How could he need him more?"

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Relationships, Suffering, GriefChuck F. Betters2021Comment
How Do I Respond to a “Coming Out”?
How Do I Respond to a “Coming Out”?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, Donata asks "My granddaughter (age 13) believes she is gay and dresses that way. Her parents have condoned this. Her father, my son, was raised in a Christian home, and knows better, but allows this. There are other things going on in this family that is tearing my heart out with a heaviness for my granddaughter to not be left behind. Please help me in the way to approach her, that she is not left behind that Satan doesn't use it to pull her further away, but the Lord uses it to pull her closer to him, that she may become a witness for others in Jesus name."

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Parenting, Suffering, SinChuck F. Betters2021Comment
How Can I Be Happy, When Others Suffer?
How Can I Be Happy, When Others Suffer?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, “My son & his wife (who live in Tennessee) welcomed a baby, Tessa, on May 27. My husband & I decided to go visit them to see the new baby, taking many precautions during the travel due to the COVID Pandemic. When we arrived I was filled with such joy to finally hold her as she was now 1 month old. The very next morning, my sister, Barbie, texted for prayers as my nephew, Joey, was in the hospital. His heart had stopped and that he was in critical condition. At that point, I was filled with such mixed emotions. I wanted to be happy for my new granddaughter but I was torn with such sorrow for my sister and her family. I was so confused and lost. I didn't know how to feel. How does one handle such a situation?”

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Emotions, SufferingChuck F. Betters2021Comment
Our Adult Child Hates Us, Help!
Our Adult Child Hates Us, Help!

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "We ask daily, "How long O' Lord" will our grown married adult child continue to break our hearts with hate and anger, abandoning us at critical times, refuse us our first glances or permit any access to our precious new grandchildren, and blame/berate us for the deep heartache they have suffered at the hands of their beloved church long ago? What does the heartbreaking process of letting go consist of, please, and where do we begin? We are losing Hope of any reconciliation. Thanks for the scripture."

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Parenting, SufferingChuck F. Betters2020Comment
What Are Your Thoughts On Premature Death?
What Are Your Thoughts On Premature Death?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Please pray for me, I'm grieving the loss of my husband of 37+ years and no one understands me. I believe that there were some errors in his ICU care and I believe correlates to his condition wording and me being falsely advised of his condition, to cover up the mistakes that led to him passing away. I felt rushed by everyone around me to make a decision to take him off life support. My heart is broken and my grief has been magnified. I have a strong faith in God and I don't want to broaden the grief of my children or other family members. I want to look into my concerns, but I'm grieving too hard and no one is really wanting to help me. Do you have a recommendation? I know God doesn't make mistakes, but I know man did. What are your thoughts on premature death?"

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SufferingChuck F. Betters2020Comment
How Can We Save Our Loved Ones?
How Can We Save Our Loved Ones?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Hi my brother grew up Christian, and went to college to be a pastor. During those years he struggled with alcoholism. He prayed to God to help him conquer that but he felt betrayed by God because he struggled with it for many more years and even gave up trying to preach. He now says that he doesn't even believe in God because if he really existed he would have taken that from him. He then takes it further and says he can't believe in a God who lets children and babies and even adults suffer, all the while keeping their neighbor safe. How can I try and bring him back to God other than praying for him?"

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Addiction, Suffering, Grief, RedemptionMARKINC Ministries2019Comment
How Can I Pursue Jesus When Everything Is Okay?
How Can I Pursue Jesus When Everything Is Okay?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I’ve watched a bunch of your videos and it breaks my heart to hear about all the pain and suffering people are dealing with. To be honest, right now I feel like my life is going really well, no major issues, no struggles, no problems but after watching your videos I realized that I am not really deepening my relationship with Christ because, well, “things are good”. I mean, people seem to need Jesus more when they are hurting but how do you need Him just as much when things are ok?"

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Suffering, Doctrine & TheologyMARKINC Ministries2019Comment