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How Can We Save Our Loved Ones?

How Can We Save Our Loved Ones?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Hi my brother grew up Christian, and went to college to be a pastor. During those years he struggled with alcoholism. He prayed to God to help him conquer that but he felt betrayed by God because he struggled with it for many more years and even gave up trying to preach. He now says that he doesn't even believe in God because if he really existed he would have taken that from him. He then takes it further and says he can't believe in a God who lets children and babies and even adults suffer, all the while keeping their neighbor safe. How can I try and bring him back to God other than praying for him?"

Addiction, Suffering, Grief, RedemptionMARKINC MinistriesSeptember 30, 20192019Comment

Does God Want Me To Feel Pain?

Does God Want Me To Feel Pain?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am in pain all the time. My doctor has put me on pain killers for my chronic pain which help although there are a lot of side effects and concern about addiction. Does God want me to feel the pain?"

GriefMARKINC MinistriesMay 29, 20192019Comment

I Have Terminal Cancer. How Do I Prepare For Death?

I Have Terminal Cancer. How Do I Prepare For Death?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Dear Dr. Betters, I am in my late 30’s and have been battling cancer for the past 3 years. I am losing the fight and have been told it is terminal at this point and…

Suffering, GriefMARKINC MinistriesMay 2, 20192019Comment

How Do I Find Comfort, When I Feel So Guilty?

How Do I Find Comfort, When I Feel So Guilty?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "My child was recently diagnosed with an autoimmune disease at the age of 5 years old that she will struggle with for the rest of her life. I’m afraid it…”

Parenting, Grief, RedemptionMARKINC MinistriesFebruary 18, 20192019Comment

The Struggle of Sin

The Struggle of Sin

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I'm 44 and a widow of a pastor. He passed when I was only 35...I became a single mom instantly . I spent the 1st 3 years healing. Then, I thought that God would bring me a spouse. I wasted nearly 5 years waiting…

Relationships, GriefMARKINC MinistriesJanuary 2, 20192019Comment

Do animals go to heaven?

Do animals go to heaven?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am animal lover! My pets are truly part of my family. My precious dog Buster is 14 years old and his health is beginning decline pretty rapidly. It just breaks my heart to think he will soon no longer be here with me. Do you believe pets have souls? Do animals go to heaven?"

Pets, GriefMARKINC MinistriesDecember 10, 20182018Comment

Is Abortion Ever Okay?

Is Abortion Ever Okay?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My husband and I are trying to get pregnant and have been reading a lot of information about all these gene testing options available to us in preparation. We have been believers our whole lives and we do not believe in abortion BUT…

Parenting, GriefMARKINC MinistriesNovember 5, 20182018Comment

How do you keep living knowing you caused someone’s death?

How do you keep living knowing you caused someone’s death?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "How do you keep living know you caused someone’s death? (whether by car accident, other accident, etc)"

GriefMARKINC MinistriesOctober 29, 20182018Comment

Should Christians be armed?

Should Christians be armed?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I feel like there is a story in the news almost every day about a shooting and then there is all the commentary around gun control, the 2nd amendment and on it goes….”

GriefMARKINC MinistriesOctober 1, 20182018Comment

If a baby is born with a terminal illness, is it ever okay not to fight for the life of the baby?

If a baby is born with a terminal illness, is it ever okay not to fight for the life of the baby?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My friend’s son was born at 30 weeks with a rare skin condition. Babies with this skin condition usually die within the first days to first month of life. My friend has chosen to spend tens of thousands…

GriefMARKINC MinistriesSeptember 4, 20182018Comment

Am I abandoning my responsibilities if I put my mom with Alzheimer's disease into a facility?

Am I abandoning my responsibilities if I put my mom with Alzheimer's disease into a facility?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am 62 years old and last year my husband and I decided it was time to move my mother into our home to care for her. You see, she has alzheimer’s disease and really started declining quickly…I’m starting to think we might need to look into a facility to put her in but is that abandoning my responsibilities, abandoning my mom? Am I being selfish?"

GriefMARKINC MinistriesAugust 27, 20182018Comment

Is it wrong for me to pray to die?

Is it wrong for me to pray to die?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Is it wrong for me to pray to die?"

Grief, RedemptionMARKINC MinistriesAugust 13, 20182018Comment

My baby died 3 weeks after giving birth. How do I let go of the "what if"?

My baby died 3 weeks after giving birth. How do I let go of the "what if"?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Recently I went into labor and had my baby at 33 weeks. He had to be flown to a larger hospital with a NICU and we stayed there for 3 weeks. I can't stop thinking about things I should have done so that I could have kept him in a little longer like I should…

GriefMARKINC MinistriesJuly 23, 20182018Comment

How is it possible to prepare for my child's death?

How is it possible to prepare for my child's death?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Our son was born with a serious birth defect. The doctors have told us that his time with us will be short and that we need to prepare for his death sometime over the next 6-12 months. How can we wake up everyday and find any joy when we know it might be his last?…”

Suffering, GriefMARKINC MinistriesJune 18, 2018Comment

I am afraid to pray for patience. What should I do?

I am afraid to pray for patience. What should I do?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I have three sons, two have have special needs. I am overwhelmed by how hard it is to care for my boys. I want to pray for patience, but I am afraid that if I pray for patience God will make my life unbearably hard in order to teach me patience. I cannot handle things being any worse than they are now so I don't pray to God and ask for patience...What should I do?"

Parenting, Suffering, Grief, RedemptionMARKINC MinistriesMay 28, 2018Comment

Can we draw a comparison between how God lost His son to how we lose our children?

Can we draw a comparison between how God lost His son to how we lose our children?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Can we draw a comparison between how God lost His son, Jesus, to how we lose our sons or our daughters as humans?"

GriefMARKINC MinistriesMay 14, 2018Comment

How do we say that the Lord restored Job's losses?

How do we say that the Lord restored Job's losses?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "How do we say that the Lord restored Job's losses when he lost 7 sons and 3 daughters? I understand he had 10 more children, but how could that possibly be seen as a restoration?"

Doctrine & Theology, GriefMARKINC MinistriesApril 23, 2018Comment

How can we learn to trust the Church again?

How can we learn to trust the Church again?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Church gossip has nearly destroyed our family. The timing of invented-stories and stretched-offenses has only intensified our losses, as we were deeply grieving the deaths of nearly a dozen precious people in our lives...

Church, GriefMARKINC MinistriesFebruary 26, 2018Comment

Help! Our only child was murdered...

Help! Our only child was murdered...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Our only child, our 18 year old son, was murdered last year. We're supposed to be Christians. My husband is even a pastor. But I have lost my faith in the goodness of God. I am in such complete and total despair. I've struggled with doubts (probably due to my OCD and scrupulosity)...

Emotions, Suffering, GriefMARKINC MinistriesFebruary 5, 2018Comment

Should Christians take antidepressants?

Should Christians take antidepressants?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Should Christians take antidepressants? Is depression a spiritual issue that should not be treated with drugs that will mask a spiritual problem?"

Emotions, GriefMARKINC MinistriesJanuary 29, 2018Comment