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How Can I Pursue Jesus When Everything Is Okay?

How Can I Pursue Jesus When Everything Is Okay?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I’ve watched a bunch of your videos and it breaks my heart to hear about all the pain and suffering people are dealing with. To be honest, right now I feel like my life is going really well, no major issues, no struggles, no problems but after watching your videos I realized that I am not really deepening my relationship with Christ because, well, “things are good”. I mean, people seem to need Jesus more when they are hurting but how do you need Him just as much when things are ok?"

Suffering, Doctrine & TheologyMARKINC MinistriesSeptember 16, 20192019Comment

I Have Chronic Fatigue... How Do I Make Life Meaningful?

I Have Chronic Fatigue... How Do I Make Life Meaningful?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I suffer from Chronic Fatigue and I am exhausted all of the time. I’m only in my 40’s but I feel like I am wasting my life….

SufferingMARKINC MinistriesMay 13, 20192019Comment

I Have Terminal Cancer. How Do I Prepare For Death?

I Have Terminal Cancer. How Do I Prepare For Death?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Dear Dr. Betters, I am in my late 30’s and have been battling cancer for the past 3 years. I am losing the fight and have been told it is terminal at this point and…

Suffering, GriefMARKINC MinistriesMay 2, 20192019Comment

I am a double amputee who's lonely and whose heart is hurting.

I am a double amputee who's lonely and whose heart is hurting.

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I’m a 45-year-old double amputee. I lost both my legs as a baby. I cry myself to sleep at night. I’m so lonely. It seems like the world has taught ladies to want a…

Suffering, RelationshipsMARKINC MinistriesJune 25, 20182018Comment

How is it possible to prepare for my child's death?

How is it possible to prepare for my child's death?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Our son was born with a serious birth defect. The doctors have told us that his time with us will be short and that we need to prepare for his death sometime over the next 6-12 months. How can we wake up everyday and find any joy when we know it might be his last?…”

Suffering, GriefMARKINC MinistriesJune 18, 2018Comment

I am afraid to pray for patience. What should I do?

I am afraid to pray for patience. What should I do?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I have three sons, two have have special needs. I am overwhelmed by how hard it is to care for my boys. I want to pray for patience, but I am afraid that if I pray for patience God will make my life unbearably hard in order to teach me patience. I cannot handle things being any worse than they are now so I don't pray to God and ask for patience...What should I do?"

Parenting, Suffering, Grief, RedemptionMARKINC MinistriesMay 28, 2018Comment

Is there a point at which God will no longer save me out of my suffering?

Is there a point at which God will no longer save me out of my suffering?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Why in Jeremiah 14:11, Jeremiah 7:16, and Jeremiah 11:14 God seems to be telling Jeremiah not to pray for the people? Is there a point at which God will no longer save me out of my suffering or hear my repentance?"

Suffering, RedemptionMARKINC MinistriesApril 16, 2018Comment

It looks like people are saved and then become unsaved. How do you reconcile that with eternal security?

It looks like people are saved and then become unsaved. How do you reconcile that with eternal security?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "The Devil was once a saved angel who was unsaved and so was king Saul--how do you reconcile that information with Hebrews 6?

Suffering, RedemptionMARKINC MinistriesApril 4, 2018Comment

Can one be saved and then choose to turn away from God?

Can one be saved and then choose to turn away from God?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Is it "once saved always saved"? Or can one be saved and chose to turn away from God? Hebrews 6:4-6 says “It is impossible for those who have once been enlightened, who have tasted the heavenly gift, who have shared in the Holy Spirit, who have tasted the goodness of the word of God and the powers of the coming age and who have fallen away, to be brought back to repentance. To their loss they are crucifying the Son of God all over again and subjecting him to public disgrace. Land that drinks in the rain often falling on it and that produces a crop useful to those for whom it is farmed receives the blessing of God. But land that produces thorns and thistles is worthless and is in danger of being cursed. In the end it will be burned.”

Suffering, Doctrine & TheologyMARKINC MinistriesMarch 28, 2018Comment

If Jesus died for all of our sins, why are we still sinners?

If Jesus died for all of our sins, why are we still sinners?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "If Jesus died for all of our sins, why are we still sinners? We were not made sinless by His death?"

SufferingMARKINC MinistriesFebruary 13, 2018Comment

Help! Our only child was murdered...

Help! Our only child was murdered...

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Our only child, our 18 year old son, was murdered last year. We're supposed to be Christians. My husband is even a pastor. But I have lost my faith in the goodness of God. I am in such complete and total despair. I've struggled with doubts (probably due to my OCD and scrupulosity)...

Emotions, Suffering, GriefMARKINC MinistriesFebruary 5, 2018Comment

How does God bless the hurting?

How does God bless the hurting?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "How does God really bless people who are in pain, people who are hurting? What does it mean to be blessed by God?"

Suffering, GriefMARKINC MinistriesDecember 26, 2017Comment

What does the Bible mean when it says my sufferings complete Christ’s?

What does the Bible mean when it says my sufferings complete Christ’s?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "What does the bible mean when it says my sufferings completes Christ’s?"

Suffering, Doctrine & TheologyMARKINC MinistriesDecember 4, 2017Comment

My wife keeps leaving me and coming back. Can I divorce her the next time she leaves?

My wife keeps leaving me and coming back. Can I divorce her the next time she leaves?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My wife was diagnosed with bipolar and she refuses to admit it, therefore she is not medicated. Over the last 4 years she has left me (and our daughter) several times. Each time she tells me she wants a divorce and I tell her I don’t want a divorce so she leaves. Then, a few months later she apologizes and wants to come back home. Every time I take her back because isn’t that what Christ does for us? My question is, would it ever be okay for me to say, “enough!” Can I ever go through with a divorce?"

Suffering, Relationships, GriefMARKINC MinistriesNovember 27, 2017 Comments

When should I stop praying for something?

When should I stop praying for something?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "When should I stop praying for something?"

Suffering, RedemptionMARKINC MinistriesNovember 7, 2017Comment

How do you talk about suffering to people who are suffering?

How do you talk about suffering to people who are suffering?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "How do you talk about suffering and God’s purpose in suffering with people who are in the midst of it?"

Suffering, RedemptionMARKINC MinistriesOctober 30, 2017Comment

How should I prepare for suffering?

How should I prepare for suffering?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "If the bible promises Christians suffering, how should I prepare for suffering?"

SufferingMARKINC MinistriesOctober 16, 2017Comment

How is a Christian supposed to respond to public tragedy?

How is a Christian supposed to respond to public tragedy?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "How is a Christian to respond public tragedy?"

Suffering, GriefMARKINC MinistriesOctober 4, 2017Comment

Why am I not comforted by God in my grief, pain, and suffering?

Why am I not comforted by God in my grief, pain, and suffering?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "What if the pain of life has become too hard to bear? What if there have been too many substantial losses to handle life? Will we simply die with broken hearts in the end? God hears us and tells us so in scripture, so why can't we seem to be comforted?"

Suffering, GriefMARKINC MinistriesSeptember 18, 2017Comment

It is ever okay to give-up on living and go home to Heaven?

It is ever okay to give-up on living and go home to Heaven?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am 75 years old and my health has slowly been deteriorating over the past 5 years. Recently, my health has gotten much worse and it is unlikely I will ever have a decent quality of life again. I am in constant pain and I need assistance to do even the simplest things. When is it okay to “give up” and go home? I know suicide is wrong, but is it wrong to just stop fighting to live when you’ve lived a full life."

Heaven & Hell, Suffering, GriefMARKINC MinistriesSeptember 11, 2017Comment