How Do I Look At My Daughter And Not See Her Sister Who Died?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Robert asked, Hi Dr Betters-I just want to say I stumbled upon your videos and I am so glad I did as I believe there are a lot of people out there that need clarity with what the bible says and how they can apply it to their everyday life, me being one of those people. Back in 2013, my 4 yr old daughter passed away and my life has changed as you can attest to. I was not a Christian at the time but that all changed after her passing. I have been baptized and accepted the Lord as my savior. My heart still is heavy though especially on days like today which was her birthday. The Lord has blessed me with two more children and I do grieve with the hope that I will see her again, but it still hurts deep inside. I guess my question to you is how do i look at my now 3 yr old daughter and try not to think of my other daughter who passed at almost the same age. It seems very unfair to my 3 yr old but it is the reality of life."