How Specific Should We Be In Prayer?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I always follow your videos, Dr. Betters. Thank you so much. I am from the Mindanao part of the Philippines. I just want to ask. 1. Do we really have to pray specifically? Like mentioning his/her name to be your husband/spouse? 2. How will you know if it is given to you by God if in case he/she is also someone else's prayer?"