How Do I Deal with Emotional Abuse?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "People quickly recognize the pain and sin of physical abuse, but what about emotional abuse? I know that everyone is sinful and the tongue can be a weapon, but how far is too far? My husband doesn’t curse me out (so to speak) but yet his words hurt; they break my heart; he is controlling and manipulative, yet when I try to talk about anything he just insists it’s all my fault and that I am the problem. I’ve heard you tell people they need to search themselves and look in the mirror, and I am really trying to do that because I know that I am bringing my own sin behaviors into the relationship, but I am desperate to put Christ in the center of my marriage, and I don’t know how to do that when my partner is focused on tearing me down in order to deem himself blameless."